6th October 2021 Mrs Kala Pohl
The “how are you?” question has puzzled me over the years. Somewhere along the way, we have forgotten the purpose of that phrase. Ever notice how someone can ask you this question and just move on before you can even formulate a response. Their body language says, “it’s just a formality, I’m really not interested.” It’s not a question that expects a response anymore. At a deeper level they really don’t care about your response and often feel at a loss if you do actually tell them how you feel. Many feel they are not equipped to help, so it’s best not to wait to find out. In reality, people don’t expect you to fix their problems, they just want you to acknowledge them, to listen with compassion, to sincerely care about their well-being. That’s it.
Hmm…I wonder, how did we get to this point? Was there a time, sometime in the past, when people expected a response? Perhaps today, we can do a reboot – to ask someone “how are you?” And then wait for their response, however long it takes.
So, how are you?
I leave you with my acrylic painting entitled “Afternoon Walk to the Lake”.