30th January 2022 Mrs Annie R Teo
Once every so often, we all come to experience an encounter of the unpleasant type. I recently made such an encounter, and I must confess that I did let it get to me, a bit. The good news is that it also taught me something valuable and somehow refreshing that I would like to share.
A lot has been said and written on how to deal with emotional unpleasantness caused by another and that “how we react” is the key. Have you tried it? In my case, easier said than done right?
This brought me to replay the “crime” scene and start questioning the damage done: Did this person just change the whole course of my life? Fried my brain down to IQ 20 (or less)? Made ugly warts suddenly grow on my face and to a hunch on my back? Brought my bank account balance to turn red? Made all the people who love me or appreciate my company run out on me? Of course not! In fact, I could tick “no” in every box. No, my life didn’t change just because someone chose to throw their unpleasantness at me. Looking back and seeing myself walking into that room, unaware then that I was not welcome, somehow brought back the memory of me driving my car into a tunnel with the radio blaring let’s say…Karen Carpenter with me happily singing along:
“When I was young
I’d listen to the radio
Waitin’ for my favorite songs
When they played I’d sing along
It made me smil WWWWZZZZZWWW
and the radio started spitting at me. I had lost the good waves. I turned the radio off.
So, the next time I walk into a person with bad vibes or waves, I will remember to switch her off and get on with my life, as usual, leaving her behind, where she belongs.
“You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it” Mahatma Gandhi
*I used “she” and “her” for convenience.